Vladimir
Spivakovsky

Lessons of Happiness

Lessons of happiness. №1.

Today is the International Day of Happiness.

The formula of happiness number 1 (if someone is interested :-))

Nowadays everyone is asking each other what it is. And they are looking for one formula for all occasions, from the movie «We’ll Live to Monday» (happiness is when you are understood), to simple folk sayings.

But in fact, there are several formulas of happiness. Only I have 7 of them.

I will describe all of them today.

What allows people to have a happy destiny, a family that safely experiences all the crises: monetary, age, illness and those associated with a career?

The answer is: the ability to distinguish what is important and what is secondary.

With the person who is focused on the main thing you can build whatever: business, family and love. It is comfortable with this person, because everything is structured and understandable, as in the matrix.

And, vice versa, with a person who constantly enters a third-rate you just co-exist, dooming yourself to constant suffering, oppressive loneliness and a set of poisonous complexes. This person always shoots with a miss and does not understand that you expect him to hit the mark.

So, you should have the ability to do the main thing in life and remove all unnecessary things.

Happy Day of Happiness to all of us!

Lessons of happiness. Formula number 2

How do people achieve what they call happiness?

The Hungarian psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihaly investigated the happiness of an assembly line worker.

It turned out that the worker was performing the same operation first in 43 seconds and, improving his skills, managed to do that in 28 seconds. And every time he achieved this result, he jumped with happiness.

People are more likely to be in this state of enthusiasm during work than during rest hours. That is, the hidden inner motivation with a step-by-step result is the source of happiness quanta .

Work + game.

Ethnographers tell about a number of human cultures in which there is no borderline between work and game.

The members of the Kpelle tribe in Liberia understand the difference between the hard work of cutting the forest and the easier one — sweeping the city streets. But they avoid any work where there is no place for songs, dances and jokes.

And it is not because they are lazy — on the contrary, all the members of the tribe are very hardworking and diligent, they just want to receive 2 in 1: both work and pleasure from it.

Here is the secret! And we try to make adults from the school children, imposing them only seriousness!.. And then we began to practice «seriousness + enthusiasm» at school.

And, oh, my God! How much happiness has appeared!

So, formula number 2 is not to be satisfied with something one, but to organize «2 in 1» at the same time: mind and health .., intelligence and imagination .., work and pleasure from it .., family and love .. , useful and pleasant …, mind and feelings …., process and result.

Lessons of happiness. Formula number 3. The recipe of happiness.

The recipe of happiness is simple: you need to collect quanta of happiness, one to one, as a puzzle, to compose a mosaic of them and re-read them as a savings book in the evenings in the good old days.
The quanta of happiness are immensely diverse: you fell in love, won a prize, managed to pass a course, saved a man, gave a bouquet, received a long-awaited letter, beat a competitor, got the latest dress, gave birth to a child, found money, saw a solar eclipse, recovered …
Despite the diversity of such feelings of happiness, I still equate each of them to a single quantum of happiness, because the main thing is the quantity, not the scale. Because you never know what a little screw will twist your life up or drown it. Happiness is fleeting, unlike grief, which lasts a long time.
This, of course, is not very fair, but that’s the way the world wags. That is why the quanta of happiness should be immediately fixed, making a nick in any place, and then in the evening you should transfer these nicks into a secret notebook or a secret computer file.
I do the same, having taught myself to count my victories before going to bed. And I never listen to those grief-psychologists who recommend dividing the sheet vertically in half, on the left to write something positive, on the right — negative and compare what will outweigh.
Do not weigh the negative. I say to everyone: consider only your victories. You are a good person in general, and you do not need to focus attention on the fact that you are in some way unlucky, multiplying your problems and spoiling your mood.
After all, when collecting photos in the album, we prefer to have there the moments of fun, relaxing at sea, playing football, a beautiful hairstyle, saying «cheese», but not the moments of anguish, consequences of an accident and treatment in the hospital.
When we paint the images of our future life, our consciousness acts on the same patterns. All good things go into the credit, nothing should be lost!
Life is measured not by the number of breaths taken, but by the moments when happiness takes the breath away.

So, formula number 3: record and write down your «pluses». It will be a mathematical addition of your total happiness.

And do not be ironic, since mathematics is an exact science. 🙂

Lessons of happiness. Formula of happiness number 4.

Only two countries have ventured to introduce an official measurement of the level of the country’s development in terms of happiness, and not in terms of the GDP. This is the kingdom of Bhutan and the UAE (Emirates).

But Bhutan is catastrophically poor and hopeless. And the people are happy, having no notion that somewhere else another life exists. They rejoice in the sunlight like plants. And they just dance (photo).

But the Emirates are on top of bliss because of the way how cool they have arranged the lives of their fellow citizens. There are luxury skyscrapers, free education and medicine, cleanliness, breathtaking and enchanting splendor and fireworks. Where does all this come from?

From the fact, that along all the streets on the big boards, it is written in large letters: «Every drop of oil that has not benefited the people is wasted» (attention to the big board where the UAE prime minister, who said these famous words, is pictured).

They really have every drop of oil for the good of the people.

Therefore, they decided not only to measure the level of happiness, but even to create the Ministry of Happiness. And do not laugh. This ministry really works to increase this indicator.

I was there recently, and dared to go to this ministry and find out by what indicators they measure it. They showed me the technique and were extremely surprised when I showed them mine — how to count happiness, to take it into account and accumulate.

Today, on the day of happiness, I will gradually spread these texts and formulas (if anyone is interested).

So, accumulate the moments of happiness. Start doing it today.

And by the way, do not believe happiness ratings of different countries, which are so much spoken about in the media today. They call Norway and Finland the best and we are somewhere between Gabon and Somalia. Happiness of a person depends very little on the GDP.

The GDP is large in many countries, but people get very little from it.

Happiness is a state of mind (and a little money). And it is necessary not to splash a single drop of it.

Lessons of happiness. Formula number 5.

It is believed that there cannot be and should not be any lessons of happiness. But I’m asking the question: what do you really want from the school? Why are you unhappy? What kind of order do you have for school?

And the first answer I heard was: I want the child to be happy. Okay.

— Have you ever seen a school teaching it? – Answer: no. – Well, how can we fulfill this request, if we won`t teach happiness!?

Unfortunately, only 15% of people are automatically predisposed to the sense of happiness. So
— should the rest remain unhappy?.. And now I think: if this is the case, then why not to teach this important life value. Indeed, why then do we need a school if parents formulate their order «about happiness», and the school does not even plan to do it?

… I will tell you secretly, we have introduced these extraordinary lessons of happiness (in the Hypermarket of Knowledge), and the results were amazing. Not 15%, but 60% of the graduates feel happy in their adult life.

Of course, the lessons of happiness cannot fit into 45 minutes and look like a subject with paragraphs in the textbook. There are special exercises for personal growth, two-three-day trainings and special exercises during ordinary lessons, when each teacher, in their lessons and during the breaks, unobtrusively demonstrates how successfully you can find the way out from some difficult situations and rejoice at your own successes.

And if our children become a little happier as a result of such lessons, then what else should be the priority of the reform of education in the country?

So that’s it. Formula of happiness number 5. You can …. teach happiness. No matter how naive it can sound. Otherwise, the number of unfortunate people will continue to grow. And this trend should be prevented.

Lessons of happiness. Continuation. Formula number 6.

Enjoy, you will not meet this often. It is scary.

How to measure happiness? Now there will be a small thriller.

… The physicists are lucky! They determined that, for example, the volt is the electrical voltage in a section of an electric circuit with a constant current of 1 ampere when 1 joule per 1 second is performed.

And why is happiness worse then!?… Isn`t it the «voltage» of our nervous system, that is eternally under constant current, with the useless Work of the soul that works hard every Second, for years and all life?

So, I suggest enjoying such an extraordinary definition of happiness by combining physics with lyrics. It is necessary to read as a white verse, in one breath, taking your time and with pleasure, without stopping.

What is one quantum of happiness? Ready?

One quantum of happiness is the amount of drive emitted in human space, when, standing still, and not lifting legs off the ground, a person suddenly jumps, and even flies, and their spread wings touch the clouds when everything seems so small below, and the horizon shines with sunlight and then it approaches, then retreats, allowing the telepathic antennas in the soul and near it to turn on full power, so that the light, as if triggered by a laser, stumbles on a mirror and paints all internal organs in huge diamond, rather than small Swarovski gem-cuttings, when you do not understand where there is the mirage in the desert that you saw a few years ago behind the Egyptian pyramids, and where there is information reality, that penetrated into your mind and gave you such a sharp and desperate impulse from which you suddenly fell into weightlessness, intangibility, disbelief in what is happening , and, falling, you do not understand whether it is up or down, but you manage to feel such a rush of feelings, not five, or even six feelings, but more that put you in a dead end, but the mind ignored it, and the wings carried you further with the speed of light through the cross section of civilization, which simply hovered and enraged with envy, mercilessly taking away your gift of fate, which in turn is so favorable that it gives awards to its chosen ones, like you, not thinking about who deserved it or not, for no reason in particular, spontaneously, so that it could seem to you that only at this moment you soar at the height of bliss, and that anyone how should could notice this, because all this is by chance and the time it lasts equals to one moment.

Have a happy and fantastic night. Fly in dreams and accumulate moments of happiness.

There are enough moments for everyone.

Lessons of happiness. Ending. Formula number 7. It’s simple.

Happiness is the peak in yourself.